While a divorce may seem like the end of the world to some people, it is actually the beginning of a whole new life. However, like any transition in life it is going to be stressful and a bit scary. The process is even more scary to go through when you have adult children.
Evolving Your Family
One of the challenges of moving on after a divorce when you have adult children is determining how to handle “family” events. If you had minor children then the handling of these situations would have been discussed in your divorce paperwork. However, when you have adult children a parenting plan is not a part of your divorce paperwork.
Family events can be handled in a couple of ways. First of all you can just alternate special events, like a traditional parenting plan would do. However, you can also orchestrate family events based on what your kids want to do.
While you can split up the holidays and special events, you also have the option of sharing these events as a family unit. This can be difficult at first, however, with time you will be able to tolerate each other long enough to get through special events that involve the grandchildren.
Dating After 50
In addition to dealing with adult children and divorce you will also need to figure out how to have a social life once again. Dating when you are over 50 is a challenge but it is not impossible. The key to dating when you are over 50 is to be comfortable with who you are and knowing what you want in a partner.
If you haven't dated in a while then your first step towards dating in your 50s will be to learn about what modern dating is all about. Working with a relationship coach can be a great way to prepare yourself to go back on the market. These people will show you how to attract someone's attention and how to find the right person for you.
Finding someone to date today is a little easier than it used to be. You can sign up for online dating services, you can work with a matchmaker or you can just cruise local hang out spots to find someone interesting. You can also have people you know and trust set you up on blind dates.
After you get divorced you will need to move on with your life. This is a challenge when you have adult children and are a more mature individual. However, starting a new life after 50 can be very exciting and it can provide you with the opportunity to start a new life that will be fulfilling and full of new experiences.
Madeline Binder, M.S. Human Services Counseling, had a private practice where she helped families of divorce co-parent.
